Friday, 30 January 2015

Father's role in parenting?

Probably in traditional family,
mothers often play the heavier role in parenting,
as the main care taker and provider for the kids,
based on my upbringing and observations.
While fathers are the main disciplinarians / fun provider?
However, with more women working,
most fathers are doing more in terms of parenting.
But, personally, I still think mothers are the main providers.

In france, i think there is more balance between the roles.
At the previous new year eve party,
there was a couple that brought their 2 years old daughter.
When it was bed time,
the father brought the daughter to the room and put her to bed,
while the mother continues to drink and merry at the party.
I was surprised at the role-reversal
but husband thinks that its because the mother is the friend of the host
while the father is a plus-one.

While picking up the girls at school,
I noticed that there are some fathers picking up their kids
but most of all, are still the mums / babysitters
and a few grandparents (which is rare)

In the family i worked with,
most of the time i see my boss (the mother) around,
while the father comes homes after i left
but he is the one who send the girls to school in the morning.
My boss is away for 2 days for work,
and the girls are complaining to me 
how they are not used to their father helping them with homework etcs

husband had a fatherly conversation with a colleague
how the colleague reminded him that 
life will be different after a kid
no more partying and your life revolves around the kid
and i gently reminded husband that a mother's life will be change like 1000000x more

I guess in the country where there are more feminists, 
fighting for women's rights,
mothers still take on more when it comes to parenting...
Maybe im just biased.







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