Finally a reply...

Finally after near 20 days
I received an email reply from the embassy

the correct department - Checked
the correct person in charge - Checked
the correct email about paris marriage application - Checked
so nothing can go wrong right?

The first statement is...
"As you are going to marry in France, I am not really the right person to answer your questions"

Anyway he did managed to answer a few questions

such as the costs & procedures to legalise French documents

That I need to get 1 document from Singapore embassy in France

The only concern now is he inform the documents need to be valid for 3 months

while fiancé heard from the paris townhall is documents to be valid 6 months

The difference in months going to make a huge difference for me

because it means I can only prepare my documents in December?!

 

But anyway

his reply saved me from not making another trip down to Embassy

 







 



 

365 days since the beach...

It has been 365 days since we met at the beach..
And the sweetest fiancé surprise me at office
with these beautiful roses..
<3 <3 <3

 

 

 



Change is the only constant

I guess plans are changing again
Sometimes the changes happens faster than I can catch up

I need some sanity.

Embassy Embassy Embassy

Today I received an email
from the correct department of the embassy
So i was really happy
Till i open the email

And realized is a reply about my email 
sent 3 weeks ago
About ROM application procedures in Singapore

So when will you reply me about marriage application documents in france?!

I hate my job..

How is my job related to this blog?
Aven once asked me
"If my boss is really nice, my job is great, will i change my mind?" 
The answer is... 
i will still choose to get marry
But maybe ill fight to stay in singapore
get the fiance to keep trying for a job in singapore

But since I have a abusive boss
A job in a company where im unsure when it will collapse
It is definitely easier for me to accept relocation

As always
I have been ding-donging about when to resign
It is more difficult when i need to give 3 months notice
and a stupid SOP that we can only resign on the 1st of the month
That i cant really be flexible to choose when to leave

Resigning in aug is great
I will soon get out of this job
I can celebrate my birthday in paris
And need not be away from the fiance
(Long distance relationship sucks)
(Long distance marriage preparation sucks double)

Resigning in sept will be good for our pocket
Yes, is just a month of income
but it will make a difference
especially with the upcoming wedding expenses
and my upcoming unemployment

Tonight while i was thinking about the singapore wedding expenses
I have decided

I will take an additional month of:
-Being away from the fiance
- Mental and emotional abuse from boss
- Slaving like a dog at work
...And resign in Sept 

My mind keeps changing
especially when i have a bad day(s) at work
but i hope to stay strong in this decision.

Everytime when i whine to you
or wants to change my mind
Please encourage me to be strong
(or just tell me "$$$$$$$$$$") 

Pray for me to be strong
That the additional month will not destroy my sanity.

Current job

Initially the plan was to resign in Sept
Do my 3 months notice till end November

My boss say I should consider take my bonus
but that will mean quitting in Jan 2014
and work till April 2014

With the daily mental abuse
And worry that I may need 1-2 weeks before I leave
to settle on last minute issues
if I am to work to end of November
and reach paris in middle December
the townhall may already be closed for the holiday period
and delay our application of marriage

I thought of quitting in aug
Do my notice and leave in Nov
Even have time to celebrate my birthday

But money is too good to give it a miss
Money VS Sanity
How to choose?

Nightmare at Embassy

Since the application of long stay visa
I exchanged a few emails with the France embassy (Visa section)
And I asked about marriage application documents
The reply was:
"You can walk in every Thursday
8.30am to 1.00pm without appointment
To ask the consular section"

Although the fiancé has checked with Paris Townhall
on the required documents
I thought it will be good to make a trip
to double check with France Embassy

So yesterday I took time off
The whole day because I got a feeling I will feel bad
Happens each time doing such documents

I reached the embassy at 10.45am
Went in without queue
Everything seems great
No queue and crazy crowd
so is good...

As I waited for someone to speak to me
FInally a Singaporean looking lady came
and spoke French with me
Okay, is weird we are singaporeans
she like to assume every singaporeans
who walk in france embassy
speaks French

Anyway then the bomb came
I cant speak to anyone because
I don't have an appointment
There is only 1 guy who is in charge of life, death, marriage matters
The guy was fully booked for the day

I tried to explain how I was misled by the email
The lady then asked me
"How can the visa section advise you on this"
Hello...is not my fault that your colleagues are blur

At the end
I stayed less than 5 mins in the embassy
But the good part is:
- I know where is the embassy now
- At least is not crowded (even on the Thursdays)
- I got the namecard of the man in-charge

I will try survive this...